Rites of Passage

Since Eric was a first grader at St. Anthony's School, I've anticipated the tears I would shed on the day of his 8th grade Balloon Mass.

At our school, like many others, there are wonderful traditions. One of them is the annual Farewell Mass, referred to at our house at the "Balloon Mass".

The tradition goes like this: each fall, shortly after school begins, the 8th graders welcome the new first graders to our school with a special Welcome Mass. At the conclusion of Mass, the 8th graders meet up with their first graders buddies, present them with a balloon, and process hand-in-hand from the sanctuary. First grade mothers, having anticipated for years the day their child would attend this first school mass, tussle for the perfect photo opportunity. The students process to Mary's Garden, where the blue and gold balloons are released.

Each spring, we hold the Farewell Mass outside in Mary's Garden. The 8th graders are the guests of honor. By this point in their academic journey, the first graders have become proficient readers and are responsible for proclaiming the readings, intercessory prayers and special words of care and blessing for the 8th graders. At the end of Mass, each first grader presents a balloon to his or her beloved buddy and the students again process hand in hand out of Mass. The 8th graders then gather together and sing a farewell song. As the blue and gold balloons are released into the heavens, the students exchange hugs and sometimes even a tear or two. Eighth grade moms jockey for position, trying to get the perfect angle without being too embarrassing to their teenagers. Moms juggle the digital camera, the video camera, and the wadded up tissues we've consumed during this sentimental moment.

Today was Eric's special Balloon Mass, the one I've been waiting for since first grade. In the past few years, as I watched other graduating 8th graders participate in the ritual, I've shed a few tears of joy and thanksgiving for being part of such a wonderful community. I always thought that there would be many more tears when I watched my own 8th grader release his balloon. But today, I surprised myself. Yes, I'll admit to a few tears, but mostly I felt proud and extremely happy for Eric. He has had a wonderful time in elementary school. But like that balloon, he's destined for greater journeys.

One day recently, we were all standing in the kitchen and Eric jokingly said to Greg and I, "My confidence is at an all time high." Wow, what a thing to hear from a fourteen year old! I remember, at that age, feeling incredibly unsure of my position in the world. High school, for me, was something to be feared - new territory with many new people to meet and lots of uncertainty. But when I look at Eric, I realize he's ready. He's benefited so greatly from being part of a loving and spirit-filled elementary school community, but like his balloon, he's ready to soar, and now's the time.

The next few weeks will hold more special traditions as the 8th graders slowly march towards graduation. There will be parties, trips, awards ceremonies and more. I'm sure I'll need more tissues along the way as I watch my son move into the next phase of his life. Today, as I watched Eric's balloon grow smaller and smaller in the sky, I said a silent prayer for Eric, and one for Greg and I - that he will enjoy the journey before him and that we will have the strength and grace to help him prepare himself for all that lies ahead.

What Do You Just For You?

I just got home from doing something really fun, just for me! A few years ago, in a quasi mid life crisis moment, I decided I wanted to learn to play the violin. At that time, I was already forty - much too old to consider a future career as a virtuoso, but I took on the challenge. I've always loved fiddle music, so I decided that I'd focus on basic violin with an emphasis on fiddle.

Since that time, various events have conspired against my becoming the next member of the Dixie Chicks. I have been through four teachers (that's a whole new blog entry in itself), breaking up with my last teacher well over a year ago.

Somehow, this week, I decided to pick back up the bow. I haven't played in a very long time, as it always seems like there's something more important or productive I should be doing. We moms tend to do that a lot, with our lives so busy serving other people and working. Playing my violin is something I do just for me...no one else derives any benefit from it, so I've tended to just not do it.

But, the point is, I love playing. I sound really bad (practicing is a great way to get boys to go play outside), but I don't care. I'll probably never get anywhere beyond playing for my own pleasure, but I've decided now that that's reason enough to play.

So today, I had my first lesson with my new teacher. From the first time I met him, I thought he'd be a great teacher - his name is Patrick! I think that's a good omen.
Taking lessons is good for me, as it encourages me to take time to play and practice.

What do you love to do, just for you? Have you done it lately? We can make all the excuses we want, but the truth is that most of us can find an extra thirty minutes somewhere in our days to do something we love: to write, to take a walk, to garden just for the joy of it, to write a letter, to call a girlfriend, or even just to take a bath! I challenge you today to do something you love, just for you!

New Articles

Our Mother's Day celebration is off to a great start over at CatholicMom.com - take a look to view some recent articles, gift ideas, poetry and more. I'm still looking for contest entries so that someone can win Lisa Barker's wonderful book. Remember, your entry can be as brief as one sentence. All names who comment here or email me will be entered.

Share a Story, Win a Book

Hi Friends! Mother's Day is one of my favorite holidays, but not for selfish reasons. In my family growing up, my Daddy always made a HUGE celebration for the world's greatest Mom (and now Nana!) on Mother's Day. We would make my mom breakfast in bed and all five kids would snuggle with her (and probably eat most of her food). It's a precious memory from my childhood.

Jelly Mom columnist and author Lisa Barker has graciously offered to donate one of her fabulous books Just Because Your Kids Drive You Insane Doesn't Mean You Are a Bad Parent! as the prize for a fun contest this week at CatholicMom.com.

To enter, simply submit a special memory related to Mother's Day, a gift idea, a recipe, a tribute to your own Mom, or anything else related to Mother's Day. You can either submit your thoughts as a comment on the Catholic Mom Moments blog, or email them to me at lisa@catholicmom.com -

The names of all who submit will be entered into a drawing and on Monday, May 15 I will randomly select the winner of Lisa's fabulous book. Good luck and enjoy sharing! Lisa

Answers to "What I've Been Up To"!

OK, some of you have figured them out, but here's an extremely brief travelogue of my recent odyssey.

Photo #1 - Las Vegas (no, not the real Venice!) - We spent a few days at the new Wynn Hotel in Vegas, living in the lap of luxury

Photo #2 - Yosemite - We are fortunate enough to live with waterfalls practically in our backyard. This photo was taken on a day when Eric and I discovered a new and fairly hidden hiking trail about 50 minutes from our front door. The majesty of the waterfalls this year is indescribable - God's creation leaves me speechless at times like this. It was an incredible day, with two incredible boys! (Mom shared a few "stay away from the ledge" nags during the course of this otherwise lovely hike).

Photo #3 - The Walnut Room, Marshall Fields, Chicago - Nana and I surprised Erin for her 40th birthday (ok, so we were a few days early....). We both flew to Chicago and we really did fake my little sister out! It was a wonderful trip. If you've never been to Chicago in the spring, plan a visit - the weather is lovely and the tulips are awash in color. More on the suprise and my slightly aging sister soon.

Photo #4 - Notre Dame!!! Ok, this one should have been simple. I attended this year's Alumni Senate in the shadow of the dome. I felt like an elderly alumna when I asked two young coeds to take my picture in front of the dome! I hope to share more on this fantastic conference soon.

I think I'm home now for a while and ready to get caught up and back on track. I was greeted at the airport by two handsome young men bearing a spring bouquet and one slightly bedraggled husband who'd been minding the store in my absence! It's wonderful to travel, but there's no place like home!!!

Meet Sharmane!

I've just posted my new interview with an incredibly talented Catholic Mom, Sharmane Adams, over at the new "blog" for CatholicMom.com dealing with music, books and more. Read my interview with Sharmane and feel free to comment on her great music with this new format. I love Sharmane's latest CD, and know you will too!

Great New Columns

Just posted over this morning at CatholicMom.com! Check them out!

The Mother is the Heart of the Domestic Church by Donna–Marie Cooper O’Boyle

Teaching Moments - 24 Gold Coins in a Day

Top Ten Dental Health Mistakes Of Women Over 35 by Michele Howe

Oversize Emoting Not a Tiny Problem by Marybeth Hicks

A Lesson about Courage by Susan Handle Terbay

Trying to Determine "Needs" vs. "Wants" by Patrice Fagnant-MacArthur

What Can I Say? by Heidi Hess Saxton

The Great And Naked Houdini & His Assistant by Lisa Barker

A Boy, A Man, A Mom by Pat Gohn


Enjoy!!!

What I've Been Up To!

Hey guys! I'm breaking my own personal rule about posting pictures of myself to give you some sense of why I've been so delinquent in my blogging for the past two weeks. Here are some scenes from my recent activities. Can you name the places?









I'll post the correct answers tomorrow.

Missing In Action

For those checking in here who are concerned that I've fallen into a black hole, don't worry! I don't have time for a complete update, but I'm alive and well and just too busy to blog! Since Easter Sunday, I've been on a whirlwind travel schedule - I plan to log on Wednesday, when I will finally be back home, and offer a complete update on all of my recent activities. I've been suffering from an intermittent internet connnection in the various places I've been of late, which is perhaps a good thing! Some time to refresh and revitalize is always a good thing.

Signing off for now...see you Wednesday!
Lisa

Calling All Irish Fans

The men in my house were happy to learn that this year's "Shirt" is not in that girly gold color! Our Notre Dame Club will be selling The Shirt as a fund raiser very soon, so I'll keep you posted!

p.s. yep, I'm back out of vacation mode! Will be posting pictures soon of our Spring Break Activities!

Lisa Barker

I've been waiting for weeks to unveil my interview with our own "Jelly Mom", Lisa Barker, featuring her insights on her new book Just Because Your Kids Drive You Insane…Doesn’t Mean You Are A Bad Parent. With a name like that, how can you go wrong?! Click here to read my interview with Lisa and give yourself an early Mother's Day present by purchasing her book today!

Happy Easter

Happy Easter!
I will be taking a few days to celebrate with family. Many blessings to all those who were joined our Church at the Easter Vigil last night!
I hope your Easter celebrations are filled with joy!

Good Friday

Today's Readings

Yet it was our infirmities that he bore, our sufferings that he endured, while we thought of him as stricken, as one smitten by God and afflicted. But he was pierced for our offenses, crushed for our sins; upon him was the chastisement that makes us whole, by his stripes we were healed. We had all gone astray like sheep, each following his own way; but the LORD laid upon him the guilt of us all.
Isaiah 53

Please remember today to pray as a family for our troops.

Mike St. Pierre's Notebook reflection on the Work of Holy Week offers a great reflection on today's Good Friday readings.

Here's the question from his reflections that I'm pondering today:
Are we known in our parishes as active participants or are we content to sit in the back row at Sunday Mass? What program, ministry or event might I plug into which could help me to be less of a spectator and more of a leader in my faith community?


Dr. Marcellino D'Ambrosio also offers some wonderful prayer suggestions at his Crossroads Initiative

Stations of the Cross

Stations of the Cross for Children

Vatican Way of the Cross for 2006

Recently, I asked the following question of Fr. James Martin, SJ, author of My Life with the Saints. His response follows:

Q: How can parents of young children begin praying the Stations of the Cross with them in a way that is age appropriate? I know that some young children may be frightened or become emotional when viewing the images of the Stations. Can you counsel parents on the best way to introduce this devotion in their families?

A: The Stations of the Cross may be difficult for very young children to see. (On the other hand, they may see things far worse by turning on the TV at the wrong time.) But their central message—that is, Jesus loved us all so much that he was willing to suffer—is one that can be, and should be, translated for young children to help them understand two things. First, that Jesus loves us. Second, that suffering (or struggling, or challenges, or pain) is a natural part of life. So, for example, when thinking about the First Station, “Jesus is Condemned to Death,” you might talk to your children about how sometimes good people are punished for no good reason—like African-Americans during the era of slavery. And when meditating on the Second Station, “Jesus Carries His Cross,” you might ask your children what types of sacrifices that they have to make every day.

Eventuallly, though, your children will have to be introduced to the reality of Christ’s suffering—in all its aspects. One key way of helping your children understand this mystery is by not fearing it yourself. At least in my very limited experience (as an uncle and as a friend of many young parents) the more a child sees trust in the parent, the more the child grows in trust. So the first step to helping your children move towards this mystery, is to meditate on its meaning in your own life.

All this might seem difficult, and each parent needs to make a decision about these things not from a sense of guilt, or a sense of what others in the community may think (no matter how much they seem to know), but what is best for one’s child. This is all God asks of us.

Fasting and Abstinence

Lenten Fasting Practices for Pregnant and Lactating Women

Good Friday Table Blessing from Catholic Culture

Lenten Recipes at CatholicMom.com

Divine Mercy Novena

Today, Good Friday, is day one of the Divine Mercy Novena. To learn more about the novena visit the EWTN web site.

Today, we pray for the souls of all mankind, especially sinners:

"Today bring to Me All Mankind, especially all sinners and immerse them in the ocean of My mercy. In this way you will console Me in the bitter grief into which the loss of souls plunges Me."

Most Merciful Jesus, whose very nature it is to have compassion on us and to forgive us, do not look upon our sins, but upon our trust which we place in Your infinite goodness. Receive us all into the abode of Your Most Compassionate Heart, and never let us escape from It. We beg this of You by Your love which unites You to the Father and the Holy Spirit.

Eternal Father, turn Your merciful gaze upon all mankind and especially upon poor sinners, all enfolded in the Most Compassionate Heart of Jesus. For the sake of His Sorrowful Passion show us Your mercy, that we may praise the omnipotence of Your mercy for ever and ever. Amen.

The Judas in us All

I loved this piece by Patrice Fagnant MacArthur, over at her blog.

Holy Week Activities

At CatholicMom.com I have posted coloring pictures, puzzles and more to help your family learn and enjoy during Holy Week.

The Work of Holy Week

Mike offers a great reflection on today's Gospel reading over at his notebook.

He asks: When was the last time you shared the faith with someone who isn't Catholic? It is often a relationship or community bond which opens a door to sharing the faith- are you currently working on a project or event which may open up a door for evangelization a month or year from now? Finally, on a scale of 1-10 (10 being the greatest), how strongly do you believe that you are an evangelizer?

In response to that last question, I have to admit to being probably a Four. Evangelization is uncomfortable for me - I need to give it greater devotion in my own life. At this point, however, I feel a greater sense of urgency in devoting time and energy to the faith formation of my own little family. In my world, evangelization starts in the home. Thanks Mike for another great reflection!

Holy Thursday

Today's Readings

Do you realize what I have done for you? You call me "teacher" and "master" and rightly so, for indeed I am. If I, therefore, the master and teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash one another's feet. I have given you a model to follow, so that as I have done for you, you should also do.

Today, we celebrate Holy Thursday and the Mass of the Lord's Supper, the first day of the Triduum. I always love attending Holy Thursday Mass at my parish. Tonight, I have the honor of photographing our candidatcatachumenschumens who will be received into full communion with the Church at the Easter Vigil Mass on Saturday. I am always awed by these men and women who have given so much time, energy and effort into their RCIA preparations. They bring a gift of enthusiasm and desire that fills my heart. All of the spiritual work they have put into their RCIA preparations is amazing. Frequently, they go on to be some of the most committed and devoted members of my parish.

Another part of the Holy Thursday liturgy that I love is the candlelight procession to our Altar of Repose. We silently file after our priest, who has removed the Blessed Sacrament from the tabernacle. In darkness, we process around the exterior of our church building, each holding a candle. The path to the altar of repose is lit by CandidatCatachumenschumens, each holding a candle. The silence is stunning as we walk along the sidewalk of a fairly busy street. I always wonder what passing motorist think when they see us processing in silence in a single file line like that. Our procession ends at the Altar of Repose, where we have silent time in front of the Blessed Sacrament. It is truly a wonderful evening, and one I look forward to every year.

Gone Fishing!

No posts tomorrow (Wednesday), as I will be accompanying the 8th graders on their whale watching field trip. Please pray for good weather and lots of sightings!

Mike's Notebook - The Work of Holy Week

From today's reflection, over at Mike St. Pierre's Notebook:

In your friendship with the Lord, are there moments when you are more prone to “betray”? Sometimes we betray with our words, at other times with our attitudes and actions.

Somehow, given this week's media fascination with the "Gospel of Judas", this seems especially timely. Thanks for the reflections Mike!

Tuesday of Holy Week

Today's Readings

When he had left, Jesus said,
“Now is the Son of Man glorified, and God is glorified in him.
If God is glorified in him, God will also glorify him in himself,
and he will glorify him at once.
My children, I will be with you only a little while longer.
You will look for me, and as I told the Jews,
‘Where I go you cannot come,’ so now I say it to you.”

Today's Saint - St. Gemma Galgani, despite years of suffering and illness, remained steadfast in her total devotion to God and her prayer life.

Lord, I want to love you with total devotion as St. Gemma did. Help me to overcome the things in my life that separate me from giving you my total self. Let my love for you shine like a light. Amen

Book Buzz

I just posted my interview with Brian Singer-Towns, editor of Breakthrough! The Bible for your Catholics.

I love bibles and this one is a new favorite. It's aimed at middle school students, but will also appeal to youth (and Moms and Dads!). Take a few minutes to read my interview with Brian and I think you'll see why I liked this one so much. Now that I'm done reviewing it, I'm going to have to share it with Adam, who falls perfectly into its target demographic.

God or the Girl

One of my little hidden secrets is that I'm a reality TV junkie. Along with one day owning a Harley, participating on Survivor is near the top of my "life after kids" list of goals...Weird huh?!

So I was excited to hear about a new A & E series debuting on Easter Sunday. "God or the Girl" looks at four young men as they consider their vocations to the priesthood. It's getting really good advance reviews and sounds very interesting. I won't likely watch Sunday night, but thanks to my DVR I'm hoping to check it out sometime next week.

Catholic Spirit Review

God or the Girl Web Site

Renovate Your Easter Celebration

Sorry, I know that we're just starting Holy Week, but this is a topic I've been thinking about myself so I thought I would share it and it might require a little advance planning.

This article from Weight Watchers landed in my inbox this morning. Given my recent attendance at the Go Red for Women luncheon, I'm thinking of how to help my family celebrate a more healthy Easter than our usual jelly-bean laden fest! So when I go out Easter shopping this week, I'll be looking for a few healthy alternatives and the WW article gave me some great ideas.

The Work of Holy Week

A special thanks to blogger and Catholic campus minister Michael K. St. Pierre for the introduction to his wonderful blog. Mike has a special feature running this week entitled "The Work of Holy Week". Mike will be reflecting on the daily readings of Holy Week in light of their relationship to the "stuff of daily life" - I found his reflections to be very thought provoking, particularly this question:

Do our lives produce amazing work, quality relationships and results that show others that we are clearly followers of Christ?

I could spend all day thinking about that one! Visit Mike's site each day this week with me. Thanks Mike!

Monday of Holy Week

Today's Readings

The LORD is my light and my salvation;
whom should I fear?
The LORD is my life’s refuge;
of whom should I be afraid?
Psalm 27

Today's Saint - St. Fulbert, 11th century French bishop of the diocese of Chartres. Well known for his devotion to the Catholic schools of his diocese, his intellectual prowess, and his love for the Blessed Mother. His Easter hymn, You Choirs of New Jerusalem, is still sung today at Eastertime.

"Ye choirs of new Jerusalem,
Your sweetest notes employ,
The Paschal victory to hymn
In strains of holy joy."
--Saint Fulbert of Chartres

Milo Moments

God's "Top Ten" List

Thanks to author Lisa Umina and illustrator Meg Vrana for sharing our friend Milo!  Click here to order Milo Moments!

Teaching Moments

Thanks to Laura and the folks at www.teachingmoments.com for sharing the following:

Who Stole Your Day?

Thanks to Carole Hale, St Louis, MO for sharing her Teaching Moment idea.

Every day has the potential to be a good, and in some cases, a great day for you. Few of us get up in the morning thinking that we want this to be a bad day. Yet in many cases the day turns that way because of a person, an event or because we worry something in the future.

This Teaching Moment is about those small events that throw you off balance and negatively impact your day.

What stole your day? Was it a boss, an unruly child, the erratic driver on the way to work, not getting the ”B” you expected on the history paper, a discourteous server at lunch, etc.

Every day there are numerous people or events that can prevent us from having a good day – if we let them. The key is not letting them “steal your day.”

In most cases we can not control these life experiences, but we can control how we react to them. Lao-Tzu, a Chinese Philosopher said: “He who conquers others is strong; he who conquers himself is mighty.”

Question for discussion:
* Discuss the pluses and minus of your day with your family. Be specific
* Discuss with your family something that almost “stole your day.” Describe the event and how you handled it.
* Do you notice a pattern? Are there particular people or events that seem to always steal your day? Say, the drive to work, the bus to school, and the neighbor’s barking dog? etc. Discuss.

Suggestions for implementation:
* Do your- family members have suggestions on how you could have handled a particular situation? Keep it positive. This is a learning experience for everyone in the family. The idea is to share positive ways to keep you positive and focused on what is really important.
* Make this a fun discussion stimulating experience for everyone.
* Learn to accept others. They may be having a bad day for any number of reasons. Take a couple of deep breathes and say to yourself: “I’m not going to let this steal my day.”

We hope you have found this Teaching Moment helpful. Please visit our website www.TeachingMoments.com for additional easy-to-implement parenting ideas.

Just in time for Good Friday

Thanks to Kay, who shared this link featuring recipes for Orthodox fasting. Suddenly I'm hungry!

In case you missed Sharon's recipe in the comments below, here it is!

One of our favorites is rice and bean tostados or tacos. It's instant brown rice, chopped onion, and once that is simmering, you add a can red beans in chili sauce. Stir that, then add a can of corn (drained). Mix it together and heat. Then serve it as tacos or over heated flat tortillas w/ lettuce. We use cheese, but it's flavored enough to omit the cheese.

Thanks Kay and Sharon!

Helpful Link

Thanks to Pat from Trinity Bridge for sharing the following:

Trinity Bridge - This site offers Catholic mothers of children with emotional illness links to authentically Catholic resources, as well as other (prayerfully) appropriate references for both spiritual and practical assistance.

Palm Sunday of the Lord's Passion

“Hosanna! Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord,
the king of Israel.”

Today's Readings

Palm Sunday Crafts and Activities at CatholicMom.com

Today's Saint - St. Gaucherius - This young French man gave up worldly things to lead a solitary life devoted to God and became a beloved Abbot. Lord, help me to be less concerned with worldly desires and more concerned with a total and complete love for you and for others. Amen

Lenten Almsgiving

Looking to do a little more lenten almsgiving this year? Why not help an elderly Salesian Sister throught the Adopt-a-Sister program? A relatively small financial contribution goes a long way towards helping these women who have dedicated their lives to serving God and others.

Click here for more information

Giving to God through Gardening

As a gardener, I loved a story I found this morning through CNS - I'm hoping to find some time today to buy and plant the start of this year's flowers. About Passion Flowers, Wikipedia states: "The plants were named for the Passion of Christ, because the flower structure seemed symbolic of Jesus' scourging, crowning with thorns, and crucifixion." Here's the story:

For Milwaukee man, passionflowers symbolize his own resurrection

MILWAUKEE (CNS) -- The exotic passionflower is said to tell the Easter story of Christ's crucifixion, but for a Milwaukee man the flower is also a symbol of his personal resurrection. Dick Wuchte's journey to the Catholicism of his youth had several detours, but eventually brought him to the northwest side of Milwaukee, where he moved next door to a devout Catholic and prolific gardener, Marion Wicen, in 1978. He had little interest in Wicen's pride and joy, thriving passionflowers which bloomed on the east side of her house each summer, or in her faith life. But both remained a constant. Wuchte, 59, returned to the church after a 30-year absence sparked by pain from the Vietnam War and addiction. He's now fully recommitted to his faith, and said that has made all the difference. Wicen died in November 2004, but last summer Wuchte said her passionflowers bloomed more vigorously than ever. With the permission of Wicen's family, Wuchte has planted cuttings from her plants in hopes his yard will be graced with the flowers that seem to tell the story of Christ's crucifixion. And Wuchte knows the story doesn't end with the crucifixion. He said he is proof that a resurrection follows.

Check it Out

I loved this piece by one of our CatholicMom.com columnists, Heidi Hess Saxton, over at Catholic Exchange

It made me think of my sister and brother-in-law who live across the street from a Kingdom Hall. I have frequently thought, when visiting them (my sister and her family), about how devoted the congregants of that hall seem to their faith. I loved Heidi's response to Walter in this story! Thanks for the inspiration Heidi.

Today's Readings

Today's Readings

I will make with them a covenant of peace;
it shall be an everlasting covenant with them,
and I will multiply them, and put my sanctuary among them forever.
My dwelling shall be with them;
I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

Today's Saint - Julia Billart

Today's saint, St. Julia Billart, knew at an early age that she was born to share her faith. As a young woman, she felt a strong devotion to Jesus and to teaching. Despite years of suffering and illness, she went on to found an order and to defend the faith even when her own life was threatened.

Dear Lord, inspire in me a love for Jesus that is as strong as that of St. Julia. Help me look beyond the difficulties in my own life that I may use as excuses towards truly loving and serving you and those around me. Help me to feel a zeal for sharing your light and love with those I encounter in my life each day.

Open House

I've always wondered why they don't call it "Open School"...We're off tonight to view the fruits of our boys' labors as 5th and 8th graders this year. As usual, I'm feeling very nostalgic. This will be our last grade school Open House with Eric. At our school, once it's time for Open House it feels like the year is over in the blink of an eye. I can still remember the night that we attended Eric's first Open House, back in kindergarten. It feels like yesterday! The years have flown by so quickly. It is always a treat to go to Open House and see all of the hard work our children and their teachers have accomplished during the year. Tonight, I think I need to remember to bring the kleenex!

A New Look for Gibraltar

Just in time for spring, my buddy Cami's fabulous book Gibraltar has a newly redesigned cover. Great job to your designer Cami! This new look makes me want to curl up on the rocking chair in my sun room and read the book again! If you haven't yet read Gibraltar, treat yourself! Cami knows how anxious I am for the sequel, so I won't mention that here!

Looking for a Great Book

Debra Murphy, author of the wonderful book The Mystery of Things (Ashland Grail Cycle ; Bk. 1), has begun compilation of a comprehensive list of Catholic fiction. I think she's got a great list going, and I'm going to drop her a note with a few suggestions. What would you add to the list? Have any favorites already listed? There's nothing like a great work of fiction to take you away to someplace new (or old!)

We all need to do so much more to support and encourage the wonderful Catholic authors who are busy creating these great books! Hats off to Debra for getting us thinking about Catholic fiction!

Craft Query

Fifth grade relgious education teacher Angela wrote me to ask if I'd ever heard of the Lenten Journey Keychain Craft. I haven't, but maybe one of you has! Drop a comment below or email me at Lisa@catholicmom.com if you can help Angela and her fifth graders!

Going Red

Yesterday, I put on a jaunty red jacket and my favorite boots and went downtown to have lunch with girlfriends. Going out to lunch isn't something I do very often, but this time I justified the time and expense because my attendance was for a good cause and in honor of one of my most special friends.

Eight years ago, when our sons were in Kindergarten, my 28 year old friend Michelle, a skinny former college soccer player, suffered a major heart attack and almost died. One of the many shocking things about the situation was the fact that Michelle had no previous history of cardiac disease.

In typical Michelle fashion, she turned her dilemna into an opportunity to serve others. After dealing with years of doctors visits, surgeries and invasive medical procedures, Michelle has become an advocate for the Go Red for Women mission:

Go Red For Women is the American Heart Association’s nationwide movement that celebrates the energy, passion and power we have as women to band together and wipe out heart disease. Thanks to the participation of millions of people across the country, the color red and the red dress have become linked with the ability all women have to improve their heart health and live stronger, longer lives. The movement gives women tips and information on healthy eating, exercise and risk factor reduction, such as smoking cessation, weight maintenance, blood pressure control, and blood cholesterol management.

The lunch was followed by a fashion show featuring heart survivors. As I watched my beautiful friend Michelle up there stutting her stuff on the runway, I said I silent prayer of thanksgiving for people like her - people who don't let the crosses of life get them down...people who make this world a better, more healthy and loving place for others...people who have an optomistic attitude that's infectious - who make you want to look for opportunities in your own life to be of service to others.

Thanks for the lunch and the friendship Michelle. You look marvelous in Red!

To learn more about Go Red for Women and how you can reduce your own risk of heart disease visit Go Red for Women.

Need Recipes!!!

Help! I am certifiably a terrible cook, so the following email request has me scrambling. Can we come up with a few recipe suggestions prior to Holy Week for Juliette? If you have a suggestion, post it in the comments or email lisa@catholicmom.com with your favorite.

Dear Catholic Mom,

I've came across your website looking for recipes to cook for lent. I live in Jordan (in the Middle East), and there's a community of 3% of christians who like to fast during lent.

I would appreciate it if you could include recipes that have to meat or dairy and animal products as we abstain from eating cheeses and other animal products.

Hey Narnia Fans!!!

We can't wait to get our copy of the DVD, coming out April 4. Preorder yours and get it ASAP!



In the mean time, head over to Narniafans.com for great Narnia stuff and news.

Lovely Images

If you're like me and you love Holy Cards, religious art, and beautiful images, you must take a visit to the new online home of Chant Art over at Catholic Online.

I love the collection more every time I look at it! This is a great place to find images if you enjoy making holiday cards too. Thanks to Julie for sharing her art and this great news!

Important Safety Alert

Thanks to CatholicMom.com Everyday Blessings Columnist Donna-Marie Cooper O'Boyle for sharing an important health alert for parents - Reebok Recalls Bracelets After Boy Dies

Need Help?

Thanks to CatholicMom.com Adoption Columnist Heidi Hess Saxton for sharing the following information:

CALLING ALL STRESSED OUT PARENTS!!!

Britain’s hit parenting series is coming to the States!

TLC and Outline Productions are working on the first American season of

“The House of Tiny Terrors”
We would like to hear from all families and single parents with children between the ages of 18 months and 8 years old who wish to take part. Whatever your parenting dilemmas or problems – we may be able to help!

If you would like some more information, contact us at tinyterrors@optomenusa.com or 646.216.4348. No commitment is needed at this stage and all calls will be treated in the strictest confidence.

Family Day of Prayer for Our Troops

Blessings to Catholic Mom Elizabeth, who has shared with me a special web site she built to encourage families to pray together on Good Friday, April 14th, for the physical and spiritual well being of our troops in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Please take a moment to visit Elizabeth's lovely site (http://home.comcast.net/~pray4troops/) and join my family in praying, not only on the 14th, but every day, for these dedicated men and women and their families. Let us all pray for peace in our world!

Happy, Wonderful, Exciting News!

It came last night, that call I've been waiting for since August, and it was worth the wait.

For the three of you who have devotedly followed my blog, you may recall that our family welcomed some VIP guests last August - my baby brother Michael (youngest of the five siblings in our family) and his lovely girlfriend Meg. Our visit with them was so wonderful. Watching the two of them together was a true delight. I loved Meg from the first time I met her, though due to distance we haven't been able to spend much time together. That August visit was a gift, a chance to really get to know the person who cared so deeply about my brother. Also a treat was the opportunity to watch Michael, who has grown up from baby brother into a law student and fine man. Being in their company, it was obvious to me that the two of them belong together, that they "complete" one another (sorry, I couldn't resist!).

Big sisters have certain privileges, and one of them is the right to NAG. I'm not sure the car had pulled out of the driveway for their return trip home yet when my nagging began.

"When are you going to propose? What are you waiting for?"

Michael knew his plan, which really was truly perfect. Last night I received the call - Michael and Meg were engaged Tuesday night in what must have been an incredible moment. The joy of hearing him retell the details of their engagement filled my heart - those stories are the ones you retell to your friends, your children, and ultimately your grandchildren. Michael and Meg's story is wonderful, filled with love and friendship. As a big sister, I could not wish for a more perfect companion for Michael.

To Michael and Meg, congratulations and best wishes. I love you both with all my heart and can't wait to witness your marriage! And don't worry, I'll wait at least a year before I start bugging you for nieces!

Irish Wedding Blessings:

May God go with you and bless you,
May you see your children`s children,
May you be poor in misfortune and rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness from this day forward.

May joy and peace surround you both,
Contentment latch your door,
And happiness be with you now And God Bless you Evermore.

May you live you life with trust, And nurture lifelong affection,
May your lifelong dreams come true for you, Move ever that direction.

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
May the light of friendship guide your paths together,
May the laughter of children grace the halls of your home.
May the joy of living for each
other trip a smile from your lips, a twinkle from your eye.
And when eternity beckons,
at the end of the life heaped high with love,
May the good Lord embrace you
with the arms that have nurtured you
the whole length of your joy-filled days.

May the gracious God hold you both
in the palm of His hands.
And, today, may the Spirit of Love
find a dwelling place in your hearts.

Sad News

Matlock Hendey
Rest In Peace
May 31, 1987 - March 29, 2006

It seems fitting that our last picture of Matlock shows him helping Eric with his science fair project - he was always a special part of our family. Matlock died peacefully in his sleep today after a difficult week. He was loved, and he will be greatly missed.

Blessed are you, Lord God,
maker of all living creatures.
On the fifth and sixth days of creation,
you called forth fish in the sea,
birds in the air and animals on the land.
You inspired St. Francis to call all animals
his brothers and sisters.
We ask you to bless this animal.
By the power of your love,
enable it to live according to your plan.
May we always praise you
for all your beauty in creation.
Blessed are you, Lord our God, in all your creatures! Amen.

A Pox on My House

Eleven Year Old Son on Sunday: "Mom, there are some weird spots on my leg."

Mom replies (in distracted fashion): "OK, sweetie, we'll have Daddy take a look at them when he gets home."

Dad (a.k.a. Emergency Medicine Physician) on Monday: "Don't worry, it's probably just some virus. We should probably keep him home today, but it'll go away."

Eleven Year Old Son on Monday Night: "Mom, they're spreading!! I'm ok to go to school tomorrow if they're not showing, but I don't want any of the kids to see them."

Mom (starting to mentally tabulate all of the calendar reshuffling that may need to take place in the next week...): "OK sweetie, we'll see what they look like in the morning."

Eleven Year Old Son, excitedly on Tuesday morning at 5:55 a.m.: "Mom, there's more!!! (Director's note: Eleven year old's tone of voice has a decidedly happy quality to it...)

Dad (after having consulted CDC web site and numerous other sources): "Looks like it could be the chickenpox."

In my house, there's a running joke that if you ask Dad the doctor about a medical malady, you're more likely than not going to be told that it's a virus and that it will run its course. My precious husband is very stingy with medicines, which is a good thing. I've always thought that it's because of the nature of the very serious cases that he sees all day long. Not surprisingly, he's almost always right!

Eleven year old Adam was vaccinated for chickenpox as a young child, but apparently in a small percentage of cases the child can eventually come down with a mild version of the illness.

This version is a kid's delight: he's not at all feeling sick, but he is prohibited from attending school for a week to avoid spreading the illness. He's thrilled with the mandatory sequestration and the pampering from Mom and Dad. He's happily completing the school work sent home by his teacher between catnaps in Mom and Dad's bed and time off to play legos or games.

I'm one of the fortunate moms who works from home and has a husband with a relatively flexible schedule, so I'm planning to join Adam in embracing this little reprieve from his personal rat race. A few days off from fencing practice, art lessons, and other appointments will likely do both of us a world of good. But my heart goes out at times like these to the men and women who don't have the luxury of my schedule. For so many families, a protracted childhood illness is a true burden. Aside from the discomfort of the child, there is a heightened sense of parental stress and anxiety. I'm feeling lucky today to have my life and my son at home with me, even if he is spotty!

These lovely lingering days of Lent

A glance at my favorite Catholic calendar this morning brought me pause. I knew in my head that today is the Fourth Sunday of Lent, but in my heart Easter still feels very far away. These forty days of wandering in the sacrificial desert are at once both too long, and much, much too short.

I know the joy and anticipation of the Catechumens and Elect, who anxiously await their formal entry into our Church. I know the stress level of the staff who toil to prepare them, trying to negotiate the many details that accompany a successful Holy Week filled with rites and rituals and details.

I know the impatience of each kid (or grown up) who's given up soda or chocolate for what seems and eternity, and the secret relief of those who have vowed to lessen their time spent watching TV or surfing the internet in favor of more time spent in prayer. Those who have remained committed to their devotions to this point give themselves the gift of a wonderful habit that will likely extend well beyond this Lenten season.

So in my heart, I am both anxious for the joy of the Easter celebration, and a bit hesistant to move beyond the quiet spiritual focus of this lovely liturgical time. I want to savor what remains of this time of cleansing and preparation, and embrace the weeks ahead.

In this vein, I loved reading Patrice Fagnant MacArthur's reflection this week, entitled Walking the Stations of the Cross with Mary. Take a moment to read and reflect on Patrice's words - I know that they will bring you inspiration.

May the remainder of your Lent be truly blessed!

Moving!!!

The official address of CatholicMom.com is being relocated, so if you happen to want to send Chocolate Chip cookies, decaf coffee for after Lent, or cash, you can now address it to:

Lisa Hendey, CatholicMom.com
2037 W. Bullard #247
Fresno, CA 93711

(Kidding about the cookies, but not about the decaf!)

If you spend too much time in the car driving kids...

You're a Mom!!! (or Dad, or eldest sibling in a large family, or a Nana or gramps...)

You've got to read Pat Gohn's latest column at CatholicMom.com - I think I'm going to tape it to my steering wheel for inspiration! Thanks Pat!

More Girl Stuff

Thanks to Pat Gohn for sharing the great news about another resource for girls and young women (and moms too!) - True Girl Magazine. The site looks like a blast - check it out!

If you're sick of solitaire...

and are looking for a way to pass some time while learning about the Bible, visit
St Francis Xavier Bible Game. The game's creator shares that it is "an ideal source for bible word games based on the principles and history of the Catholic faith."

Do you have a favorite game online that would help kids learn about their faith or scripture? Drop me a comment or note and I'll share them here.

I Can't Wait...

Katherine Valentine, one of my favorite Catholic authors, has a new novel coming out in June!!! I've loved every one of Katherine's previous books, and this one looks really great too!



Katherine shared the following with me in a recent email:

The project began when I took a priest, who was new to the archdiocese, to dinner. He had lived in Rome began to share his experiences, including his involvement with exorcisms. What he said next, nearly made me fall off my chair. Because of his background, the archdiocese had called him to pastor a parish whose rectory was haunted. Apparently, several new pastors left screaming in the night. Well... this was just too good not to use as a storyline, and so The Hookers as we fondly refer to this trilogy was born (and that's 'rug' hookers in case you're wondering).

Katherine is also at work on a four part series on the Apostles for Biography Channel, to be begin airing during Holy Week. Sounds great!

Great Book Alert

If you haven't had a chance yet to read my interview with Fr. James Martin, author of My Life with the Saints, grab a cup of coffee and take five minutes to do so.

Fr. Jim is awesome and gives some wonderful, down to earth advice for looking to the saints as spiritual companions and role models.

He also has a cool Lenten tradition - one of his college buddies, who happens to be Jewish, selects his lenten penances for him each year. Click here to listen to Fr. Jim on NPR describing this Lenten tradition.
Click here to purchase My Life With the Saints.

Looking for that Catholic VBS for summer?

I personally have spring fever and can't wait for summer! It's not too early to start making plans for kids' activities.

Don't forget about the great program from Growing with the Saints.
They wrote me to share the following updates:

Visit us at the NCEA at Booth # 450

Look at the wonderful NEW downloads on our Website for Posters, Personalized Name-tags, and your Parish will be the first, if they choose, to hang the first Catholic VBS Banner in your area. Our Artist worked very hard to provide your Parish with these fun and exciting extras! Our downloads are there as an added convenience for parishes, so they can take advantage of their own school printing equipment, or capitalize on an existing relationship with their local signage/printer company. If you do not already work with a local signage/printer company, you may want to ask a printer to produce the banners and posters for a reduced price or a complete donation for your VBS Program.

Great stuff for girls

I'm back to trying to get updated with my recent slew of emails and wanted to share this note from a very special person, Jean-Ann Hand. Check out Jean-Ann's great stuff for girls of all ages at www.philomenagirl.com !

Hey!

After quite a hiatus, I've just published a new issue of my faith-based web magazine for girls! It's even got it's own domain now at Philomenagirl.com!


The new Philomenagirl.com is similar to the old, but includes even more on the devotional side. There are free mp3 downloads of contemporary music based on traditional prayers, as well as fun features about fashion, entertainment and personalities that embody what God calls us to be. Like the original slogan says, Philomenagirl.com is a place to be a girl and be with God.

A lot of our original Philomena girls have grown up since the last issue was published. It is my hope they enjoy it anyway and pass it on to their little sisters. Of course, being God's girl is an ageless thing and even moms might find things they like there too.

Take a look at Philomenagirl.com and pass it on to all the potential Philomena Girls you know!

Thanks and God bless you and yours!

your sister in Christ,
Jeanann Hand

Happy St. Patrick's Day!

In my world, St. Patrick's Day is, with the exception of Christmas, undoubtedly the most beloved day of the year.

My life is overflowing with Patricks, one Patricia, one Patrice, and not one, but two, beloved family members born on St. Patrick's Day. You could liken our family to the George Foreman clan - my mother would have every one of her children and grandchildren named "Patrick" if she could. While all of these Patricks make for a little confusion, it's worth the effort for the cumulative effect of so many wonderful personalities sharing the common tie of "Patrickness"...

Before I begin the litany, let me apologize in advance to anyone who might be mistakenly forgotten - I'm getting old and forgetful...I almost hesitated to pay individual tribute, lest I turn out like that Academy Award winning actress who remembered to thank everyone but her husband!

Patricia - As best I can tell, the string of Patricks in my family began with the naming of my beloved paternal grandmother, Patricia. Coming from a family of French decent, I'm not sure her parents had St. Patrick in mind when they named her, but in doing so they set in place a long line of Patricks. My grandmother is, without a doubt, one of my greatest heroes. She raised seven rowdy children, all of whom revere her to no end. To me, she has always been a model of all a mother should be - both grace and playfulness. If I could grow up to be just like her, I would consider my life well lived!

Patrick Wayne I (aka "Daddy") - I'm willing to bet, as the eldest child in his family, that his naming was in tribute to his parents - Patricia and Wayne. My family is Irish, but not 100% so...that never stopped my Daddy from partying big time on St. Patrick's Day. My Daddy has the faith and eloquence of St. Patrick, and the party attitude (although thankfully not the stature) of a leprechaun.

Erin Patrice (aka, my sister!) - Long before I was ever born, I had a name: you guessed it, Patrick! Family legend has it that when my Daddy found out I was a girl, he was so disappointed that he did not purchase my baby pictures and I went nameless for a few days. When my sister Erin was born, Daddy might have started giving up hope for a boy and named my new sibling "Erin Patrice". Erin Patrice must have been a daddy's delight - adorable, with a head of gorgeous red hair. Growing up, I was always envious of Erin's strawberry locks, her gorgeous blue eyes, and her diminutive stature. Today, Erin is the perfect combination of "Patrickness" - like my Grandma Patricia, she is a devoted mother. Like my Daddy, her red-headed personality fills any room she enters - if you're at a party, you want Erin on board! If you need a lawyer, her skill and expertise are unmatched! She brings a special something to the Patricks in our family.

Patrick Wayne II (aka, my brother!) - My brother Patrick, number three kid in our family, must surely have been my daddy's favorite the day he was born! After so many years of waiting, Daddy finally got his precious namesake. Patrick is another one of my favorite people. He evolved from being the pesky little brother when I was a teen trying to date, to one of the finest men I know. This Patrick is a mixed bag too! Like Daddy, he's fun to the maximum and has seen his fair share of parties. But today, he is a family man and a devoted father and husband. Last weekend, I had the joy of watching my brother Patrick care for his little son in my home for a night. Watching him bathe, read and sing to his son brought tears to my eyes. I'm not sure why I'm so surprised at what a great Daddy this Patrick is - he learned from the best!

Brady Anne (aka, my sister!) - Why is there a Brady on the Patrick list?! Guess what, today is her birthday! When my sister Brady's arrival on scene was delayed, my parents were given the option of having her birth induced. Daddy selected St. Patrick's Day for her birthday, thus ensuring a future devotion to this special day. My parents asked for sibling input on Brady's name, and she was supposedly named after our favorite television program at the time: the Brady Bunch! While she isn't formally named Patrick, in my book Brady Anne has always been the queen of St. Patrick's Day and the first person I pray for when my eyes open on March 17.

Adam Patrick (aka, my son!) - Adam is part saint, part leprechaun. My beloved eleven year old exudes his faith through his daily actions and his lovable personality. But like those sneaky little green guys, he's always got a few tricks up his sleeve. Named in tribute to his Grandpa, this Patrick is my sunshine, one of the lights that fills my life.

Patrick William (aka, my nephew!) - When my sister Brady learned that her firstborn was going to be a boy, we all referred to him as Matthew in the months prior to his birth (after his daddy). God had another plan in mind though, and Brady gave birth to her son on her own birthday - St. Patrick's Day!!! The precious new baby was named Patrick William, adding a new Patrick to the family tree! This Patrick is a pretty awesome one too. As a first grader, Patrick is a bundle of personality and energy. He's the best baseball player and crocodile rustler in all of Mississippi. I'd give anything to have one half of this Patrick's style and imagination, not to mention that incredible smile!

Patrick Wayne III (aka, my nephew!) - My brother Patrick and his lovely wife welcomed a new soul into our world in July - our newest Patrick!!! This little guy is such a love. His smile lights up the room and he's a definite Daddy's boy. This baby gives off an aura of complete contentment 99% of the time - he is such a sweetie, and with a mommy and daddy like he has, I know he's going to do great things in his life!

If you've made it this far, you now know why today is definitely one of my favorite days. I've shared before that I love the seasons that fill our liturgical calendar. St. Patrick's Day, for me, is a day to celebrate all that is good in my life. I'm blessed with a strong faith modeled for me by my parents and a confidence that God really does love me as a person. On top of this, today I celebrate all of the special Patricks, Patricias, Patrices and Bradys that fill my heart and my life. To each of you, I send a virtual hug and a happy feast day. I love you!

Our favorite Irish priest offers a special Celtic prayer during that blessed meditation silence following the Eucharist at mass. I share Father's prayer with you today:

A hundred thousand welcomes,
oh Jesus, oh Jesus

A hundred thousand thanks for everything that we are and have,
oh Jesus, oh Jesus

A hundred thousand acts of love in return for the love that you’ve showered upon us,
oh Jesus, oh Jesus

A hundred thousand acts of sorrow for our sins and the sins of the world around us,
oh Jesus, oh Jesus

A hundred thousand “ gimmes”, things we need, we ask for your glory for our own salvation,
oh Jesus, oh Jesus!

Happy St. Patrick's Day Everyone!

So Much Snow!!!

I beg the patience of those of you who live in places where it does this all the time, but for a girl from Fresno, this seems like an unimaginable amount of snow! The view in this photo is from the window seat where I've spent the better part of two days.

We've managed a few outings, but haven't ventured to the slopes yet. Truthfully, I don't know if we will ski at all, which does seem like a shame. It's just that we're having so much fun doing nothing!!! What a blessing to have long, uninterrupted conversations with my wonderful husband, or just to sit in the same room in perfect silence reading in front of the roaring fire. I hadn't realized until we arrived how tired and run down I really was.

Now back to the snow. We did manage to dig out the car and put chains on the tires, so we will be able to drive out on Thursday morning (darn!). I just can't believe how much snow there is. This is nice snow though, fluffy and not too slippery. I've only fallen once (while walking, not skiing!). I remember our days back at Notre Dame when a walk across campus was like crossing the frozen tundra. We don't have any of those negative ten wind chill factor days, just lots of snow!

OK, time to sign off from Mammoth. My next post will likely be from my "real life" in Fresno. Thanks again to the world's best grandma for making this little getaway possible!

The Best of Times

As I write this entry, I am sitting in front of a crackling far, looking out the window watching snow fall and pile into huge drifts.

OK, you might have guessed that I'm not in Fresno today!

Thanks to the world's best mom and grandma, Greg and I are on a little getaway to Mammoth. We arrived last night in time to stock up on some provisions and firewood before a rousing snowstorm hit.

This morning, Greg is over at the Conference he'll be speaking at, and I'm busy soaking up the silence and marveling at the beauty of God's creation.

We have four glorious days of rest and time to enjoy one another's company before heading back home on Thursday...what a gift! I love my life, but it's so incredibly nice to have a little break from the constancy of the schedule.

I'm not sure how much "work" will be accomplished in the next few days, but this time off will undoubtedly be a boost to my spirit and a refreshment for my soul.

I promise to try to post a few pictures (if I can get myself out of my PJs and go out and take a few).

Still sitting on the curb, in the rain!!!

Poor Nana, she's had quite the Odyssey!

Her flight from Gulfport to Memphis was delayed, thereby resulting in her missing her connection and being re-rerouted to Cincinnati. Once there, she boarded another plane bound for Salt Lake City. After sitting on the tarmac for an extended period of time, the passengers were taken off the plane due to mechanical problems. She did eventually make it, on another plane, to Salt Lake. However her arrival there was after all scheduled flights to Fresno were already gone for the night.

She collected her luggage, boarded and shuttle, and arrived at her hotel (thankfully provided by the airline) in the middle of the night.

This morning, she is scheduled to fly into Fresno from Salt Lake City after ony four airplane and approximately six shuttle bus segments, 23 and one half hours late!!!

Yikes, and flying is supposed to be the fastest way to get someplace!!!

She is such a trooper. During my hourly check in calls to her cell phone, she has remained upbeat, exuding a positive attitude. Grace under pressure, that's for sure.

If I have accomplished anything at all in my life, it's largely thanks to my Mom, who has always shown me an example of strenghth, persistence, and mostly, of love. I'm still waiting to collect that welcome hug! Hopefully the rain in Fresno won't cause her to be re-routed to LA!

Calling All Soccer Moms

A special thanks to Juliet, who emailed me with a link to her very helpful web site called The Educated Sports Parent.

I would like to have a few of Juliet's business cards to hand out to some of the jokers, idiots and jerks I've met on the sidelines of a few of my kids' sporting events.

Juliet shares:
The most important goal of any youth sports organization should be that every single participant has a fun and enjoyable time. Making youth sports fun for kids helps turn them on to a lifetime of physical activity. The current obesity epidemic among both children and adults underscores the need for keeping kids turned on to physical activity. We cannot afford to allow youth sports to be a negative experience that leaves children with little desire to continue being active as adults. Unfortunately, for many children, it is.

She has a ton of helpful information on the site. Check it out!

The Best of Both Blogs

For those with so much time on their hands that they check in here regularly, I now have to share with you that I've been redesigning LisaHendey.com , so now you'll have another new place to check in on things in my world. That site is going to be the catch all for updates on my book reviews, author interviews, music spotlights and web design stuff. I just posted a review I did on the Lunch Bag Notes books, which are really wonderful.

LisaHendey.com is still majorly "under development", but it's been fun playing around with the new design and tools. Check back soon for additional interviews and more!

Sitting on the Curb

Today I'm sitting on the curb...and I'm going to be sitting out here for a long time!

When we were little, my grandparents used to make an road trip from their home in Indiana to visit us in California. In those days before cell phones, we had a rather rough estimate of the general day and time frame when they would arrive. In our anxiousness to welcome them, we spent most of the day they were expected sitting out on the front curb waiting for them. I remember the joy I felt as I saw their car round the corner of our street. They had arrived! I never wanted to miss greeting them in the front yard with hugs and kisses.

Today I'm waiting for the arrival of someone special - my Mommy! The poor thing left Gulfport at the crack of dawn this morning and was due to arrive here at noon. Unfortunately, weather delays have her re-routed through Cincinnati and now she will have to take a total of four planes and won't get in until 10 pm. While this may give me time to clean my guest bathroom, I'm sorely disappointed with the delay in her arrival.

Even though I won't be physically waiting out on the curb, today has the feel of those old days, filled with anticipation. It's so wonderful to welcome my parents into my home (or any loved one, for that matter). The waiting time for her arrival seems dreadfully long, and her visit will pass much too quickly.

Sitting on the curb, filled with hope, I can't wait to give her a big hug!

Note to Self

Dear Self,

In the future, do not schedule your annual mammogram on day three of caffeine withdrawal when it coincides with a day of fasting and abstinence.

Although the temporary pain in another part of your body may decrease your fixation on your throbbing headache for three to five minutes, the after effects of the three combined (no coffee, hurting body parts and no substantive food) are not pretty...

Sincerely,
Self

More inspiration

Lenten Radio Retreats
Now your iPod can become part of your Lenten devotions!

Holy Father's Message for Lent 2006

Message of His Holiness Benedict XVI for Lent 2006

Helpful Article

Observing Lent with the Family

Ouch...

I woke up this morning with my head feeling like someone had been banging on it with a sledgehammer all night, thereby confirming the fact that my body is missing its caffeine fixes! If it's this hard to quit coffee, I can't imagine the horrors that smokers must go through.

I found the following advice and commentary online:

The Withdrawal Symptoms of Caffeine

Once you have lowered your caffeine dependence status and realized that caffeine is the trouble factor in your diet, don't take the hasty decisions of cutting down on all such intake. For in case of sudden elimination of all caffeine products from your diet, the withdrawal symptoms maybe too tough to handle. consequently, you may suffer from some of the following withdrawal symptoms:

Headaches,

Irritability

Intensification of premenstrual symptoms

Fatigue

Generalized muscular tension

Nausea

Lack of appetite

Constipation

Lack of concentration

Disorientation

Forgetfulness

Thank goodness for prayer, for the ability to ask Jesus to help me through this and all of the other tiny little crosses I will bear today. I am praying for everyone else too, for those who are hurting far worse than I will ever know. Now all of you need to pray for my poor husband, who has to put up with me today!

Leading into Lent

Ever the optimist, I am looking so forward to the commencement of Lent and my Lenten devotions. Knowing that one of my fasts deals with weaning myself from a particularly nasty caffeine addiction, I've taken the past few days to taper off. It's funny how much this has made me look forward to the start of Lent. Usually, I approach it with a bit of a sense of dread and dismay, somewhat certain that though I have good intentions about my penance(s), I will likely fall short. Does anyone else do this?

This year feels different somehow. I am looking forward to some time in the desert, stripping away the various things that separate me from God in my daily walk. I do anticipate my usual stumbles along the path, but somehow this year I feel somewhat more gentle towards myself.

Another joy of this time is sharing the anticipation of Lent with my boys and talking with them about their own Lenten devotions and observances. My hope is that we, as a family, will use this spiritual springtime to grow closer to God and to one another. Lent provides such a wonderful opportunity to focus on the benefits of fasting, increased prayer and "almsgiving" or giving of our time, talent and treasures to those around us who may be in physical or emotional need.

Leading up to Lent I feel a quiet contentment, a heartfelt longing - each of you will be in my Lenten prayers, as you walk along your own journeys in the desert. What a glory it will be to once again celebrate our Easter salvation this year with hearts and souls renewed and brought closer to our Risen Lord.

Great Stuff!

If you find that the blog looks skimpy, head over and check out "What's new?" at CatholicMom.com

If I'm not posting here, it's likely because I have so much great stuff to share over there! This week is proof positive of that rule! Check out the following, shared this week by some of my friends:

Taking Breathers: Mental Pauses for Perceptive Goal-Setting by Michele Howe (Is this timely for me, or what?!)

Ten Year Old Author Danielle shares her faith (This child is a true inspiration!)

Everyday Blessings - a new CatholicMom.com column by one of my favorite authors, Donna-Marie Cooper O'Boyle

Author interview with JD Kamps, more great Catholic fiction and my interview with Joe

Music Spotlight interview with Catholic Mom and Rocker Janelle - she's awesome!

And much, much more!!

My Buddy Milo

"When God calls, He never gives you time to pack."

My buddy Milo and his friend Lisa Umina always get it right!

Too Busy!!!

For the past two weeks, I have been too busy... to busy to blog, to busy to shop and eat healthfully, too busy to get a good night's sleep, to busy to put quality time into my prayer and meditation rituals, and too busy to be a good friend to someone who needed me.

Do you ever go through these times? I do, quite regularly. I know that I'm overcommitted and underorganized, despite my best efforts and the wise counsel of experts like the Flylady (please don't email me recommending her - I'm too busy to read her emails! Just kidding!!!)

One day last week I asked myself why I couldn't be more like some of the other moms at school, who take time to lunch with girlfriends and go shoe shopping...who look great when they arrive to pick up their kids, not still sporting the smelly gym clothes they'd been wearing since the morning.

I'm not really sure what the answer to all of this busy-ness is - I've tried following friends' advice to cut back on a few things, but I don't want to! I think what I need to realize is that my busy-ness is just a part of being me, and that it's ok, so long as I keep things in their proper perspective. That morning prayer that fuels my soul is a mandatory component, as are my trips to the gym and efforts at eating and sleeping well. Above all are my duties to family - to my husband, my boys, my parents and siblings, and to my friends.

The other things I love to do, like blogging, fill in the crevices of my hours spent driving, cooking and laundering. Sometimes those slips of time are larger are more productive than others! I know that in a few years, there will be less cooking and laundering of dirty fencing pants, less packing lunches, and much less driving - and then there will be more time for everything else. For now, the balancing act remains a precarious dance - with God at my hand to help me balance, I think I'll be ok!

What's Your Dream???

Wow, great stuff all over the place today!!! PLEASE take time to read the latest Catholic Mom column from Sue Terbay, which is a lovely reflection inspired by Coretta Scott King.

What is your dream? I have a few, and people like Sue inspire me to keep reaching towards them!

Milo Moments

"A rose only lives a short time; given to someone special, it lives forever"

Over at the Catholic Kids section of CatholicMom.com, I am so happy to be sharing a new feature with the kids who visit. Author Lisa Umina and illustrator Meg Vrana have shared Milo and his wisdom in the new Milo Moments cartoon feature. Milo will be visiting weekly at Catholic Kids to share his wit and wisdom. Thanks to Lisa, Meg and Milo for helping me keep things in perspective!

Daily Dose of Health - Surviving the Chocolate Feast!

Weight Watchers has a helpful article for all of us who plan to indulge in a little chocolate to commemorate Valentine's Day.

I went from my own personal Chocolate breakfast feast straight to the gym for Cardio Kickboxing, where my teacher was especially tough on us today. Remember, if we indulge today, we don't give up our long term health and fitness goals. I'm taking time to celebrate with loved ones, but plan a walk with my boys this afternoon for a way to re-focus on where I need to be mentally and physically.

Most of you don't have the "all or none" problem that I do, so you will survive a day of candy with no problem. If you're like me though, it can really mess you up!

Here's to finding other ways, besides overindulging, to celebrate special times with our loved ones!

Happy Valentine's Day

Love and Kisses to each of you on this special day. It's always nice to be reminded to be extra kind and loving to the most important people in our lives! At our house, we celebrated with a candlelight "chocolate feast" before the sun had even come up all the way, to accomodate a hubby who has to head off to work in the ER all day and all night!

Here's some new stuff I've posted in the last few days at CatholicMom.com:

* Valentine's Day Resources - some articles, activities and recipes for you and your family

* Women's Health Topics - Hooray! Talented and prolific writer Michele Howe has graciously volunteered to become the new Women's Health Topics columnist at CatholicMom.com. You can find Michele's first column here. I'm so excited about this new feature.

* Do you have Olympic fever??? Take a minute to read about Olmpic skier and Catholic Mom Rebecca Dussalt and her quest for the gold - " to live heroic virtue and become a saint.”

* Sanctifying the World - Columnist Pat Gohn never ceases to inspire me with her perspectives on life. Click here to read another fine column by Pat that will touch your heart and soul.

OK, back to work!

Look Who Came to Dinner

For some of you, the site of a fox sitting on your back fence watching you cook dinner may not be big news, but here in the Hendey household it sure is!

Our friend "Chickenhound", as he was christened last year by Adam, has been MIA since the last apricot season, when he was seen leaping into the tree and eating up all of our harvest. We haven't seen him since July, so it was great fun to have a fox alert - he must have heard we were having tacos for dinner tonight!

For those of you fortunate to have regular wildlife sightings where you live, please understand that our neighborhood is not your typical fox stomping grounds...we usually only get frogs!

Anticipating Lent

Although it's still a ways off, the dedicated teachers who visit CatholicMom.com are anticipating Lent and have been asking for resources. Here's a question that gave me pause - I'm wondering if anyone here has good ideas...

"Do you have any ideas for a prayer service to go wtih burying the alleluia??????????"

If your parish or school has a special tradition that you can share, I'd love to hear about it!

Happy Dance

Very few things make a Mom of school aged children as happy as having a BIG project completed and turned in, one day early for extra credit! I'm happy to report that this week we survived Adam's biographical report and speech on Benjamin Franklin and that today Eric will hand in his Science Fair project:

String Harmonics: Exploring the Inverse Relationship between Frequency and Wavelength

Somehow he and Greg managed to come up with a science fair project that examines the physics of how and why guitar strings work the way they do. Eric has spent hours on his project, testing, computing and producing his project board. I'm a proud Mom - proud of the finished products my boys accomplished this week, but even more proud of the time and effort they put into their work. It's amazing what our children can accomplish!

OK, I'm off to brush and floss!

Serendipitous Scheduling

I'll admit to being a touch superstitious, so I was very happy this morning to find that my dentist appointment today lands on the feast of St. Apollonia, third century martyr and Patron of dentists, toothaches and dental disease. I'm still not thrilled about going to have my teeth cleaned - does anyone actually look forward to dental appointments? But I feel as though I have powerful intercession on my side today to see me through.

World Marriage Day

We'll be celebrating this at my parish this weekend, renewing our wedding vows. My husband will be fifty yards away from me, playing his guitar on the altar...I hope it still counts.

Contemplating World Marriage Day takes me back to the 70's, when my parents daily "dialogue" sessions for Marriage Encounter were inviolable. We children dared not interrupt those letter reading sessions and even once burned the house down to avoid interrupting Mom and Daddy! "Dialoguing" was when my parents would write each other very important letters and then lock themselves into their bedroom to read and discuss them. As a grown up, I think that sounds like a great idea, and a way to actually have an uninterrupted conversation with my husband. But alas, I'm pretty sure that I'd wind up taking a nap instead of dialoguing...maybe that's what they were doing way back then. Who knows, but whatever it was they were doing worked - they're going on 44 years together!

Here's to a weekend of celebrating our wonderful marriages and to many more happy years!

Daily Dose of Health - Low Fat Diet

I was hoping when I read the headlines in my paper this morning that this would be the permission I've been seeking to stop automatically computing the WW points value of every food I consume (NOTE: computing does not necessarily indicate abstaining in this situation!). I'm not sure what this study means for we women of a "certain age", but you may want to take a moment to read the article yourself and see what you can make of it. Click here for CNN's take.

Now I need to start figuring out how to get more olive oil into my diet...

Discernment for Dummies...

I am off to "work" at Church this morning, so I can't write for long this morning, but I had to share the "God moment" I had this morning...

Since yesterday afternoon, I have been feeling a little unsettled about agreeing to teach a computer class at Samaritan Women - my concerns range from my own nervousness over my qualifications and abilities, to the impact that it will have on my already overbooked volunteer calendar. I actually remembered yesterday to take time to pray over this, and to ask God to make His will clear in this situation.

God is good...He didn't send me an email divulging His will, but He did the next best thing. When I opened my Bible to do my daily reading this morning, the text for today in the New Testament is this: Matthew 25:31-26:13.

OK, I guess I can quit my second guessing and go to work! Don't you love it when you get such clear marching orders?

Helpppppp!!!!

OK, somehow in the course of my meeting at Samaritan Women, I was gently persuaded to volunteer to teach a weekly, one hour introductory course on computer basics for the clients, who are women recently released from Prison and looking to re-enter the workforce. It sounds exciting, until I realize I have no idea what to teach them...

What are some very basic, essential things to teach a group of women who have little or no exposure to computers. Help me out here - post a comment or email me if you have ANY suggestion. I have a few weeks to get my act together...

Podcast Alert

OK, yet another reason to invest in an iPod, if you don't have one yet...new podcasts from Johnette Benkovic and Loyola Press. With all these great things to listen to, not to mention the latest CD from News at Eleven, folding laundry can become a spiritual experience!

Daily Dose of Health - National Burn Awareness Week

For parents, this is very important stuff! Click here for more information.

How is it already Tuesday again???

These weeks just fly by, don't they?! I'm popping online for a few moments to blog in between a grueling Cardio-Kickboxing class and a meeting with the Women's Prison Ministry I volunteer with to say hello and to let you know that I'm alive and well (although somewhat sore).

A few notes:

* Our friend Cami has a new and updated look at her wonderful website. Check it out!

* St. Richard of Lucca - This is the saint listed today in Daddy's Lives of the Saints book - I always enjoy reading about Saints who found their way to God through their Catholic parenting skills...I need all of the role models I can find!

* From my reading today in Imitation of Christ, this passage truly struck me:

As our intention is, so will be our progress; and he who desires perfection must be very diligent. If the strong-willed man fails frequently, what of the man who makes up his mind seldom or half-heartedly? Many are the ways of failing in our resolutions; even a slight omission of religious practice entails a loss of some kind.

Just men depend on the grace of God rather than on their own wisdom in keeping their resolutions. In Him they confide every undertaking, for man, indeed, proposes but God disposes, and God's way is not man's. If a habitual exercise is sometimes omitted out of piety or in the interests of another, it can easily be resumed later. But if it be abandoned carelessly, through weariness or neglect, then the fault is great and will prove hurtful. Much as we try, we still fail too easily in many things. Yet we must always have some fixed purpose, especially against things which beset us the most. Our outward and inward lives alike must be closely watched and well ordered, for both are important to perfection.

The version of the book I'm reading, edited by Clare Fitzpatrick, reads somewhat more "kindler/gentler" than this version and really gave me the kick in the pants I needed this morning. To the commenter who suggested that some devout individuals memorize this book, I am leaning towards trying to commit certain passages to memory. For today, it would be this sentence from the Fitzpatrick translation:

"The reolution of a devout man (mom?) depends more on the grace of God than on his own wisdom."

Now that is a good thing...!

Speaking of Valentine's

Does anyone have any good craft or kids ideas for celebrating the holiday with a spiritual focus? I've been asked, and my brain is too foggy today to come up with any good ideas. Post a comment or email me at lisa@catholicmom.com if you're creative!

Looking for a Valentine's Day gift...

For that special Catholic Dad in your life??? Motherhood press is running a Valentine's Day special. Click here for more information and save $5 on this gift that keeps on giving.
Just FYI, if you're a man reading this, your wife might prefer something less practical!

Daily Dose of Health - Sore Throat Remedies

Tis the season around our house...I'm looking for alternatives, since I drained the bottle of ibuprofen yesterday. Here are some ideas - Cayenne Pepper??? Ouch!

Today's Saint - St. Brigid

Considered, after our beloved St. Patrick, to be patroness of Ireland, she's one of my personal favorites.

"Brigid was one of the most remarkable women of her times, and despite the numerous legendary, extravagant, and even fantastic miracles attributed to her, there is no doubt that her extraordinary spirituality, boundless charity, and compassion for those in distress were real."

Extraordinary spirituality, boundless charity, and compassion...I'd be happy to have on of those three! Here's to St. Brigid and all of those women in our life who serve as true role models of Christ's love and compassion.

Click here to learn more about St. Brigid of Ireland. Happy February!